I sing a song of hermits

I hate crowds. I don’t play well with others, I love being alone in nature, I want to be alone…. These are the sentiments of someone who could make a great hermit. I think that might be true of many of us who like our privacy, and no one prying into our lives. What about you? Are you feeling like singing a song of hermits?

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9 thoughts on “I sing a song of hermits

  1. I wouldn’t say I’m a hermit, though I spend more time alone than anyone I know. It’s not by choice; I’m forever trying to create connections and a social network. However, I’d much rather spend time by myself doing things that are fulfilling than wasting precious time off around superficial with whom I’ve got little in common.

    As you know the natural world is very compelling to me and my dog(s) provide the kind of emotive, loyal and authentic companionship I enjoy. I would love to share my lifestyle with a person though I often find I don’t fit in with others. I’m an odd mix which is why I blog about it.

    According to Susan Cain’s book on introverts, I qualify, and reading the book helped me understand my life in a way I hadn’t expected. (Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking) I’m not shy and I like meeting people, particularly females. I can be a show off and a ham so I never suspected I was an introvert. I’d rather be with close companions than alone. But I don’t like large groups and have few friends… many of whom are also introverted.

    With regard to work, discovering that I’m an introvert helped me understand the insistent whisper I hear from inside when the prospect of professional ambition is suggested. The whisper says, “I just want to be left alone.” I used to think I was unambitious but someone laughed when I suggested it and pointed out how driven I can be. Introverted makes sense.

    As for living alone, the luster has worn off. I’ve lived alone most of my life. Vacationed alone, weekends alone, almost all significant experiences were either alone or only in the company of dogs. Most of this time I would have preferred to be with others or at best a partner.

    So I guess I’m not a willing hermit but have ended up being one because I’m an unusual mix of qualities, intense, driven and emotive. With no family or local friends, I’m deeply hungry for the human connection I lack, an introvert who won’t settle for superficial.

    • Even hermits crave some connection to people or a person in general. Many times the hermit will be very outgoing yet still cringing around loads of people. I use my love of the theater to make it through those times by pretending to be something or someone else. .. Does that make sense to you?

  2. P.S. Despite disgorging such personal details to the internet world, I do it anonymously and am not on Facebook. I can’t abide that intrusive institution. So like you I can be very private. 🙂

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